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Stay at Home Parent Vs. Working Parent

There is a wide range of different parenting styles throughout the participants of the series, but I wanted to focus on a stay at home parent versus a working parent. What are the pros and cons to each life choice and how does it affect the family dynamic?

Suzy is a mother to three kids and decided that she wanted to stay home and take care of the kids full time. Her husband provides financially for the family as the owner of his own company. Lynn is a mother of two girls and works full time. She shares household duties with her husband who also works full time. 

A stay at home parent has the ability to focus all of their time and energy to raising and caring for their kid(s). The children also spend more time with their parent. For a stay at home parent, raising the kid(s) is a full time job. They don't get to leave work after a hard and stressful day because their home is their work. They also work for free, which means their partner has to be financially stable enough to provide for the whole family. Web MD has a great article that lists some things you need to consider when choosing to be a working or a stay at home parent. 

A working parent has the stress of juggling a job and the responsibilities of being a parent. It is a lot of work and is made easier with the help of the spouse. Sharing the responsibilities of raising a child makes life much easier on the entire family. While a working parent may not have as much time with their child, they may be able to afford more with the extra income. Kyle Spencer writes about being a working parent on the website Parenting.

The moral of the story is that parenting is hard whether you are a stay at home parent or a working parent. Both lifestyles have their ascent and their downfalls, neither one is superior to the other. Parents must look at the aspects of their family's life and choose which option is best suited for them. 

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Single Parenting

In this video there is more of a focus on marriage and family. Almost all of the participants in this series are/have been married and/or have kids.  Jackie and Sue are single parents going through the challenge of raising their kid(s) alone.

Jackie got married younger and after several years she and her ex-husband decided to call it quits. She then had a brief relationship that resulted in her son, Charlie. Jackie, with the support of her family, now works hard to take care of her son, who she states is the best thing that has happened to her.

Sue had two children, a boy and a girl. She and her ex-husband divorced because they felt it was better if they lived apart. Sue has always wanted children and takes great care of the two she has. She does however receive assistance from the state to help provide for her children.

Single parenting is a very difficult ordeal. There are many struggles that come along with being a single parent, but there are also benefits. Jennifer Wolf talks about 5 positive effects parenting alone can have on single parents and their child. This parent-child bond develops in a unique way due to the atypical environment the child is raised in. Children of single parent homes often have to lend more of a helping hand, than a child with both parents in the household. This is due to the smaller ratio of people to tackle responsibilities.

Community plays a really big role in single parenting, whether that community be family, friends, or both. It is nearly impossible to raise a child without some sort of support system. Single parents don't have that significant other to fill the role of supporter, so they must rely on outside sources. The Australian parenting website interviewed single parents from various situations, who gave an insight on what it's like to be a single parent. Click here to watch the video.

Parenting is hard, yet alone being a single parent. Jackie and Sue are two very strong, hard working women. Two parent homes and single parent homes go through many of the same struggles, but both encounter different obstacles they must face. An important lesson to learn, though, is that the circumstances in which a child is raised in isn't as important as the parent's ability to raise the child.

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Public School, Private School, Boarding School. Which One is Better?

There is no doubt that education plays an important role in the lives of people, especially children, but are there benefits to attending one sort of school over another? Does paying for school mean a better education?

The subjects of 28 Up share their viewpoint based on their experience with education. 

Tony the ex jockey, now taxi driver, attended a public school. The director, Micheal Apted, asked him what advantages he thought he'd had over some of the other people that were filmed. Tony responds, telling that, academically, they've had more advantages and states that the benefits are apparent in the film. However, he feels that the kids who attended prep school missed the love and care provided by their parents due to the fact that they were away from home. Claire Winter wrote an article for BBC over one of their programs Britain's Youngest Boarders, in which she discusses the effects boarding young has on kids. Overall Tony believes, "an education makes a person have more opportunities in this world".

Bruce who attended a boarding school, is now a teacher at Tony's old public school. He believes general education is better for society, "there is a class society, and public schools help its continuance". 

Although Andrew has  never experienced a state system, he thinks private schools offer a better level of education. He believes a good education is important because it is something that no one can take away, unlike worldly goods. John comes from a background similar to Andrew and even though he declined to partake in 28 Up he discussed this subject in 21 Up. As far as education is concerned, John feels he has had the best of everything, but points out that to get where he has, he had to work very hard. He believes that anyone who attends a really good school is at an advantage.

Jackie, one of the three girls chosen from Susan Lawrence Primary school in London, makes an excellent point concerning the advantage of one school over another. She states, "whether you class going to grammar school as an advantage is dependent on your entire outlook. If you don't class it as an advantage, then you're not gonna push it". I think that's true with private and boarding school, both have their advantages and disadvantages. The quality of the school is what is important and whether the higher quality school is private or public depends on the area. Which school is the better school also depends on the needs of the student. There isn't a straightforward answer of which school is the best, it depends on personal preference and many other factors. 

Although they prefer different types of education, one thing they can agree on is that a strong academic background is a key component to success. Ultimately, though, the responsibility to achieve success is dependent on you, not your background.